1- Failures hurt, but they are the soil for your learning, redemption and upliftment. Let your grief, anger, frustrations, negative beliefs, low self esteem and pain burn in the flames of your self-awareness, so that all negative experiences become the fertile soil from which your vibrant inner garden may grow.
2- Your hopes contain tender seeds. Do not cast them away or feed them to swine. They need fertile soil (experiences) water (tears), darkness (owning and mastering your shadow emotions), warmth (self acceptance), protection (good boundaries) from the frost (criticism or unconsciousness of others), and the powerful call of the moon (attuning to your body as well as mother nature and her rhthyms) to make them rise.
3- Pain can be a call from your unconscious innocent self, seeking your loving attention and parenting. Befriend your pain, as if a hurting animal and it will become your best and most loyal companion.
4- No-one is going to believe in you until you do. Look inside and activate this partnership within yourself before seeking it outside. You will be consistently disappointed until you grasp this awesome truth. Your self-approval is the only approval that will ultimately satiate the cravings of your deepest insecurities.
5- Emotional Mastery = get O.F.E.N.D.E.D!
Owning, Feeling, Expressing, Naming, Dealing with, Exhaling and Dignifying your Emotions is essential to your wellbeing. This is especially true of your darker more shadowy emotions which you can tell are alive and active in you if you get triggered, blame or attack others, ruminate over things or lose your peace over something with someone. If you don’t learn to control your emotions, then someone else will.
So get O.F.E.N.D.E.D. as often as possible! PS spiritual or emotional bypassing with love and light or modalities that keep you at a safe intellectual perspective, won’t resolve the deeper issues. They may have their uses, but are ultimately papering over your shadows. You will only add more work for yourself down the line using methods which don’t address, resolve and dissolve your core issues if you don’t get O.F.E.N.D.ED. from time to time.
6- You do things until you don’t. Habits formed over a life time or indeed life times or handed down to you through your ancestor’s choices can be incredibly stubborn to shift. Change is actually a continuous choice…but our ability to keep choosing when our unconscious blinkers of habitual blindness kick in is limited. Things rarely change until you develop the discipline to keep choosing consciously, saying no to what you no longer desire and making a space for what you do want.
Creating new habits is like forging a sword in the fires of your soul. Once cast, you can wield your will through the self discipline you have accrued, cutting through illusions and addictions to make those healthy choices that nurture and empower you.
7- Breakdowns and dark nights of the soul are nothing to be ashamed of. They are a natural part of rebirth and growth. Welcome them. You sometimes have to let life penetrate you so completely and so deeply that your defences break down and you re-enter a state of confusion, fragility and vulnerability. When you let go of any false self that has formed, it can feel worse than death, as you get closer and closer to your natural state of beingness. These ego masks will seek to cling on and fight for their life, such is the nature of the painbody which has sustained itself on your life cycles and emotional patterns. As you pull the plug on certain habits and ways of being, you will encounter a grand tussle that attempts to draw you back into familiar, cosy and old habits that seemingly soothe you. If you persist and push through these temptations by maintaining your embodiment and connection to your presence and breath you will start to shed these layers and come back to more and more wholeness. You will know you are connecting with Pure Source because you will feel an ease and a sense of wholeness from just being with yourself here and now in this moment in this body that feels like nothing on earth.
8- Unlearning to externalise and detaching from seeking fulfilment outside of yourself is one of the most significant things you will ever learn to do. Learning to Source a sense of completion and wellbeing first from within by being present in your body in this moment, will gift you with the keys to joy, wholeness and abundance.
9- As you strengthen your inner connection to Pure Source, this allows the dark fertile places within you to become your primary nourishment. Self love & empowerment begin to fill you from the inside out. You will start to see that taking control of your connection to yourself in this moment and filling up on Pure Source empowers you above and beyond any other external thing, rank or role, Guru, deity, God or Goddess, spiritual dogma or belief system that promises you salvation.
10- The roots of all healing can be traced back to constantly returning to this Present Moment. Through deep and mindful embodiment, breathing and ownership of your feelings, you can literally move mountains, going beyond your limiting patterns and entering the ‘spaces’ in between thoughts or what you habitually notice. You can practice this at any time, in any place & in any circumstance to empower yourself and activate your healing potential no matter what the challenge or circumstance.
11- Your body and auric field is a like a genetic library that holds all records to your personal, karmic and ancestral collective experience. Healing any residual imbalance, is not too dissimilar to paying the fine on an overdue book. In returning the legacies of your past to Source, you can wipe the slate clean through the currency of your embodied presence.