Relationships dominate every single aspect of our lives. Within any ecosystem, everything is in relationship with something else. Humans are no different. We are interdependent with one another and our environment. This is the nature of our universe.
Even though we are biologically programmed to look for the ‘ONE’ and to procreate, the one common denominator, in every single relationship you have ever had or ever will have is YOU. This person in the mirror who stares back at you is the one constant in every relationship.
Although research shows that many of our personal boundaries, attachment intimacy and love patterns are imbued through early childhood conditioning and formative life experiences, there still remains a gap in our understanding of the deeper underlieing ‘frequencies’ that govern the majority of our relationships. Modern psychology and New Age modalities are making great progress in their understanding of healing trauma, PTSD and disentangling negative experiences that can affect a person’s ability to relate.
However, both of these approaches underestimate the true origins of dysfunction which govern the deeper patterning or frequencies which programme a person’s way of relating to others, a lover, money, health, career and happiness beyond their conscious level of awareness.
The majority of the outcomes generated through our relationships to these areas can be traced back, not only to our formative relationships and life experiences but also to our time in vitro, our parental patterns, past lives, the way we died and in some cases, the momentum of unresolved ancestral life experiences. These all leave a marker or a stamp on our timelines which act as a repeat mechanism, until we track it and clear it.
You could compare your own personal experiences in life to the ‘apps’ on a modern mobile phone and your inherited dynamics to the operating system that runs behind it. We can take a course, see a psychotherapist and address some of our issues, in the same way we can delete an app and download a new one. However, to fully address an issue that is being affected by the ‘operating system’ requires you to rewrite the code of your relationship programming at the level of the operating system itself.
Intimate Relationship coaching sessions can assist you to clear persistent patterns such as attracting narcissistic lovers, addiction, weak boundaries, self-abusive tendencies and self limiting beliefs by addressing them at the core programming level. Through igniting the innate power of your higher self and accessing your deeper relationship frequencies, you can clear out unfinished business and distorted patterning, whether early life, parental or ancestral and catalyse your highest potentials into physical reality.
As you learn to inhabit your body from moment to moment through clearing out old psychic debris, you will start to draw the presence of your higher self into your life. Many of your patterns, that were chosen beyond your level of awareness, come sharply into focus. These unseen habits of relating will have formed part of your identity without your conscious choice.
As the blinkers come off, the addictions, abusive tendencies and poor choices start to drop away, leaving you open to seeing the consequences of the part you have played. As you confirm the endings to these relational habits, by setting boundaries, walking away or just no longer playing your part, you get to reclaim your power of sovereign choice and a whole new vista of opportunity, opens up before you.
The more you strengthen yourself in this way, deepening your presence in your body, the more the magnificence of your higher self can enter your life, and draws those things, people and resources to you with ease, grace and flow.
“David really stands out because he is able to get to the essence of a matter in seconds. I was able to tell him things about my life and business from a core place, not just the surface. It’s not like he searches for problems, but he appears to have an innate understanding of my soul purpose and how I like to do things. It is very refreshing to say the least. Not many people can see that deeply, or so quickly.
David ‘read my energy’ and sensed there was a blockage that was keeping me stuck. My father had died a couple of years back and David noticed we hadn’t quite let each other go and there was still some ancestral wounding that needed to be cleaned up. He said he could feel pressure and heaviness in my lungs which was interesting, as my Dad did indeed suffer from breathing problems as he’d been a heavy smoker.
I really felt David wanted to support me to release this ‘old’ issue so I could live a freer and better life and get on with my important soul work. We did our next session on top of Glastonbury Tor on a lovely summer afternoon, and it was also great fun to walk to this sacred place together. It was very appropriate. The great thing about David is he is able to tune in and do his work almost anywhere. He asked me to close my eyes and start going within. From there he did an embodied soul awakening meditation where he took me to a clean and clear space inside myself, which was very centralised. It wasn’t ‘in my head’ but in my body. This was very much about being present and connected with oneself and Source. Grounded.
David was with me internally and energetically, and we both sensed there were entities that could be removed from my landscape. Not ghosts or devils, but more like ideas and limitations that had come from an ancestral line. We were able to go back past my Dad to his wounds and his parents before him; the masculine pain that was being handed down from man to man and father to child. Where that was showing up in me, he summoned to leave. Once we had got to my core and cleaned up, he led me back out again safely and gently. It was hard to say exactly what had changed, but in the days that followed, I felt so much lighter. The joy came back in. I felt connected to my spirit. Overall I just felt more ‘me’.
I had strong dreams about my ex where I was able to see clearly who he was beyond romance and sentimentality, and that was very freeing too. I could put that emotional damage into perspective. David did warn that this archetype of male ancestral energy could show up in another form, maybe from a woman. Sure enough, my mother started putting me through the ringer for something and I felt my inner world collapsing again. David, true to style, was able to guide me through this, on the telephone for our nexr session. It really doesn’t seem to matter where he is to do his work ! We did another embodied soul awakening meditation together and he was able to lead me to a better and more dynamic place, clearing old stuck patterns along the way. I was taken out of my inner hell, back to a restored centre of peace and power.
I do feel David, in a short time, was able to move the game on for me significantly. I feel my Dad has been released from my chest, where he was hanging on anxiously. Now I feel Dad has gone to a purer place of spirit, which is where he needs to be. My relationship with my mother improves all the time. The old ancestral lines which kept me dark and trapped have been lifted, although I definitely know there is more work to be done – moving from the Toxic Testosterone programming to a more Divine version of masculinity within me, which revealed itself after David and I worked together. I need to reconfigure my internal space with a new energy field to tap even more sacred potential when it comes to my relationships with men. Healing this rift could be life-changing.
I would highly recommend David as a healer because he is clean, clear, no-messing, direct and kind and gentle and soft. He is highly tuned into his work and very sincere about wanting people to be in their best place. He doesn’t over-mystify the process either, but keeps it very grounded and real. Thank you David for helping me with this piece of my life and for encouraging me to soar past my limitations.”Shilpa