Empathy 101: Toxic Projections

Empathy 101: Toxic Projections

Empathy 101: Toxic Projections That feeling you get when you name and cleanly and compassionately hand someone back their distorted projections / judgements about you… and they see it, admit it, but then try and get into further justifications because their ego...
The Great New Age Bypass

The Great New Age Bypass

Why I Resigned from the New Age and Said No More To Disembodied Ritualistic Spiritual Bypassing For years I went round and around the spiritual scene, like a headless chicken circling the farm yard.  I became adept at vulnerable self-disclosure and skilled at...

Embodied Change

On Embodying Change: Arnold Beisser’s “paradoxial theory of change” is based on an extremely simple premise; we do what we do, until we don’t. It’s as simple as that…we literally keep getting the same results until we decide to give up on our...
Truely, Madly, Deeply

Truely, Madly, Deeply

6Can you truely, madly, deeply be there for yourself, when noone else can…? Are you ready to take up the mantle of ‘keeper and guardian’ of your original innocence (inner~sense)? Ultimately, we are the only ones who can be there for ourselves, when...
The Myth of “The One”

The Myth of “The One”

Dissolving the myth of soul mates and embracing your own wholeness The Myth of The One leads us on a merry and wild goose chase. The addiction of seeking love in another before we have anchored it within ourselves causes no end of disappointments, suffering, trauma...
Presence, Reflection, Acknowledgement & Acceptance

Presence, Reflection, Acknowledgement & Acceptance

Many of us lacked an accepting, acknowledging and attuned presence in our early upbringing. I call this this type of experience, “benign neglect” and it is incredibly common place in the majority of clients that I see and it leaves invisible scars that show up later...